Mary E. Carter

July 27th, 1928July 16th, 2018

Mary Eloise Carter always sought to widen her horizons from her rural Meriden, Kansas birthplace where she entered life in July 27, 1928.As a teenager she dreamed of living in a big city to be close to the culture, the energy and lifestyle. WHen she and her husband, Harvey Carter moved to Kansas City with her first child, Michael in 1949 it was the beginning of an adventure that she never tired of for the next seventy-some years of her life.

Though she was thwarted by her father from attending college (which she would have excelled at) she always was attuned to learned new things and wanting to be part of something that was moving soceity towards the future.

Her early years of marriage were spent, as many young women in the fifties, raising children and working small part-time jobs as a secretary for Skelly Oil on the Plaza and selling Avon. As she was also an excellent seamstress, she also had her own small business sewing. She made every dress that her second child, Jan (born in 1952) wore through fifth grade. With all these responsibilities, she found time to volunteer for the American Red Cross for two years.

Because of her love of culture and music, she saw to it that all three of her children (daughter Katherine, born in 1966) were enrolled in dance and music lessons. Her own musicial abilities were to be found in her love of piano playing and singing. She had a life-long love of opera about which she would write precise notes regarding plot and performance. Later in her life, she attended many Central City Opera productions in the company of her son Michael and niece, Twila Eberly. For many years, she sang with a choir sponsored by Kansas City Life Insurance

After her divorce from Harvey, She moved from Overland Park, KS where she had spent years raising Michael and Jan to her beloved Kansas City. 

She would spend over 25 years working as an executive secretary at Kansas City Life. She shared some thirty years of her life with Tony Privitera as her companion. They both enjoyed dancing and made many travels to Hawaii, Florida, Washington, and California to attend reunions of Tony's WWII Shipmates from the Navy ship, Biddle. As part of their mutual love of education, they both attended many Adult Education classes offered by the SPARKS program, sponsored by UMKC. She also enriched her knowledge of jazz attending classes offered by the Kansas City Jazz Ambassadors.

She was a life-long member of the KC Jazz Ambassadors.

In her later years, she spent many summers in her favorite Nederland, Colorado cabin, hiking mountains over 12,000 ft in elevation with her son, Michael and attending musicla productions at the Orphem in Wichita with her daughter, Jan and going to the Flint Hills with Jan and daughter, Katherine to hear the symphony.

Her second favorite place after Kansas City was to be in Colorado and she moved to The Legacy assisting living home, Lafayette, CO in October of 2017. On July 16, 2018 she passed in her sleep at Legacy.

On July 27th, 2018 a portion of her ashes were spread by her family according to her wishes in Rocky Mountain National Park - the rest will be interred at the Meriden, Kansas cemetery. There will be a memorial held at a time and place to be determined by the family.

She leaves three children, son Michael Carter, (wife Sue Bozinovski) of Broomfield, CO, daughter Janette Marie Brady (husband Jerry Brady) of Augusta, KS, and daughter Katherine Carter of Kansas City, MO. Additionally she leaves grandson Kyle Brady of Wichita, Kansas, and step-grandson Nathan Dirks of Pittsgurgh, Pennsylvaina.

She was preceded in death by her parents, Clarence and Lura Koenitzer of Topeka, KS. 









so sorry for your loss. Mary was always fun to be around and I have fond memories of her and your family gatherings. All has been missed for many years...... Nephew Steve Frickey.
I'm so sorry to learn of Aunt Mary (Eloise's) passing. I remember so many family reunions when I was much younger (and I was flower girl in hers and Uncle Billy's wedding many, many years ago altho I don't remember much of that! I wouldn't spread the petals because people would walk on them!). I shared her love of music and attended several concerts with her in Kansas City when I lived there and again in Colorado with her and cousin Michael after I moved here. Even tho she and Uncle Billy were divorced, I still considered her my aunt. She was an independent woman and lived life on her own terms. My heart goes out to Jan, Michael and Katherine on their losses of both parents so close together. I can only imagine the depth of their grief and I'll keep them in my prayers and in my heart. I love them so.